Having “The Talk” with a Current or Potential Mate

My wife actually invented this post and I think it’s a great concept that we should cover right away.

You see, Mrs. Money Mustache* is an indispensable part of our shared empire of frugality. Believe it or not, she was generally just as excited as I was about making an extra payment on the mortgage. Or buying and selling stuff on Craigslist whenever possible instead of resorting to retail. And she’ll tend to cough just as loudly as I will when she hears about someone borrowing money to buy a new car, or notices everyone driving places that could easily be biked.

“Where can I find such a dream mate for myself,” you may ask?

You may already have one – read on!

When we were just a young couple, we carried along the financial habits from our earlier lives. I was pretty much the way I am now, but young Miss M. was more of a normal person. When we eventually decided to move in together in Colorado and she landed a good job, she celebrated the new lifestyle by acquiring a taste for stylish outdoor active clothing. And a latte and snack each workday at the coffee shop near work. And the odd book from Amazon.com when interesting titles came along. Even I got into the spirit of things, celebrating a job upgrade of my own with a gleaming new motorcycle in 2001. We kept or finances mostly separated – each of us felt we were doing well, but we didn’t really have any joint goals.

The problem was, those packages from Athleta and Amazon kept coming, even when she already had every season covered with sharp gear options. So did the books. The lattes and snacks weren’t going anywhere since you need one each day. And my $10,000 motorcycle soon depreciated to $5000 even though it only had a few thousand miles on it.

So one day we had the Talk. It was a talk about our future, how we both seemed so busy with work, yet we hoped to have children in a few years. I was already into the idea of living off of investments someday, so I threw out the idea of retiring early.. as in BEFORE starting a family.

Was it possible? Some simple math showed that it definitely was (see the later post called “The Shockingly Simple Math Behind Early Retirement” for some of the numbers).

Then we dug out the last year worth of credit card statements. This woman has a thing for spreadsheets, so every category of expenses was totaled in various ways. What we learned is something that probably applies to most people: we were spending way more than expected on seemingly very small things. Like $700 per year on fancy coffee, and over a grand on clothing despite the fact that our closets were already full when we started. Books were several hundred per year too.

It’s hard to give up things that are fun, and reading is definitely one of them.  But the key was that we noticed ways to get the same enjoyment with drastically less spending. We could get the same books from the LIBRARY. We probably didn’t actually need more clothing, especially if we would be quitting the jobs soon. We still liked restaurants, but maybe they could be a special occasion rather than a daily habit.

Now here’s the golden nugget of this post: At that moment, a switch flipped in my future wife’s mind and she was suddenly very excited about becoming a Mrs. Money Mustache herself.

Who wouldn’t give up a few books and clothes and lattes if it meant getting to work less while you have kids!?,” she asked.

The second neat cash catalyst was showing her how to set up her own investment accounts on Vanguard.com. I had already been stashing money away in my account there for a year or two, but once she had her own and was able to start transferring in paychecks, everything took off. I started getting nightly reports of the deposits and stock performance, and we’d compare our “net worth” summaries on the website.

Ever since the magic switch, our agreement on family finances has been golden. There are no arguments over money if you both share the same philosophy and goals. And now as parents of a young child, things are much less stressful when there are no worries over budget or lack of available time to spend with him.

It’s also nice to have such a complicated common interest. We can talk for hours about future plans, how to be able to afford them by being even more frugal or shuffling money this way or that, and about how incredibly bright things are looking in general. It would probably sound pretty mundane and self-congratulatory to an outsider, but it beats arguing about who didn’t do the dishes.

So if you want to move quickly with your own wealth plans, you’ll need buy-in from your own little Mister or Missus.

If you’re single, you also have lots going for you too – low expenses, free time to put in overtime for extra earnings if you enjoy your job, and the potential to go to Hardcore Black Belt frugality modes that married people could only dream of, like keeping the furnace off until December or having back-to-back Buy-Nothing months.

But unless you remain single forever, you too might want to prepare for The Talk eventually, and think about how any potential mates would respond if you do whip out the big Money Mustache on them at some point in the relationship.
*(it is a sign of ultimate respect that she earns this title).

  • Pachipress September 19, 2011, 2:38 pm

    I enjoyed reading this article. My problem(being the Mrs. and the Chief Financial Officer of this family) is consistency. I will be very frugal for awhile and then lose my momentum. My dh and I have finally decided to hold a weekly couples’ night at a certain time to discuss finances so we can both be on the same page.

    I am curious about your statement “children”. You only have one after retirement. Did you chose to only have one child? We have five so there is a higher expense now but I tell my children that I am a five time millionaire because children have made our lives richer on many levels.

    • MMM September 19, 2011, 10:42 pm

      Yup, just one kid here at MMM Headquarters.. and all of Mom, Dad, and Boy wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m glad you are enjoying your bigger family as well!
      If we had wanted more kids, we would have planned out the money side of it in advance, since they do cost a certain amount to raise. For me, it would have meant working an extra year.. for some people, having more kids will add decades to their working years. It’s all good if people are happy with their choices. But sometimes, when people end up working two overtime careers just to afford a huge number of children, I am amazed at how different our choices can be. But, hooray for freedom nonetheless.

      • Wookey February 1, 2017, 6:46 am

        Don’t you think there is an environmental argument for not having a huge family these days? It was OK back in 1880 when you weren’t sure if your kids would even survive, and the planet was only 1/7th as full, but it seems to me that anything more than replacement levels (i.e 2 kids) is somewhere between selfish and crazy, or at least in complete denial of the wider issues of resources and carrying capacity. Especially if you live in the rich world and thus have a very large carbon footprint per person.

        • Shani March 6, 2017, 6:11 pm

          There certainly is an argument for environmental impacts, but to play devil’s advocate, you comment on a 2 kid replacement rate. The western world is generally in a repopulation decline, depending on immigration for the replacement required for economic purposes. I haven’t run the numbers, but maybe the few with larger families are helping to offset future economic declines due to a smaller work force being produced in general by people having less to none of the replacement rate. Of course, hopefully such decisions are made wisely and thoughtfully to not become a burden on the current and future system, and to build it up.

          • jdzlr June 21, 2020, 6:53 pm

            I agree

  • Jane October 18, 2011, 8:18 am

    You mention Vanguard quite a bit. Excuse me if I’ve missed this somewhere else on your blog, but can you explain why you use that particular service vs. others, why that type of investment, etc? Do you work for them? :)

    Regarding this particular post, my husband and I are generally very much on the same page. I am by turns excited and proud of our frugality and frustrated that so much sacrifice and responsibility don’t leave us with more spending money. So many expenses *seem* unavoidable.

    Perhaps you have a post for the people who have already canceled cable, share a car, buy used, and want to stretch their dollar further without giving up ALL of the little luxuries in life like the occasional night out?

    Thanks! Love the blog!

    • Ian Turner May 25, 2013, 10:07 pm

      Looks like MMM missed this question, so I’ll step in and answer it (if a few years late).

      Basically, Vanguard are the Good Guys in the financial industry. That’s because the fees they collect are far, far lower than elsewhere. Vanguard mutual funds can have fees as low as 0.03%, while other management companies go around charging you 3% or more.

      Other companies offer index funds, but generally not as cheaply as Vanguard.

      Other companies also offer higher-fee managed funds, and may try to sell them to you on the idea that you’ll earn higher returns, but 3/4th of managed funds do *worse* than Vanguard’s low-fee index funds.

      Also, because Vanguard doesn’t make commissions on trades, they encourage long-term investing, not short-term trading.

      • John January 7, 2016, 5:33 am

        And now, of course, we’ve had the emergence of ETF’s, that is, exchange traded funds which are essentially a stock that is also a bundle of stocks mimicking an index or a sub-index, which carry no fees other than the brokerage commissions on the purchase and sale, usually 9.99 in a discount brokerage.

        • John January 7, 2016, 5:36 am

          Oops, not sure what happened to my post…And now of course we have ETF’s, that is, exchange traded funds which are bundles of stocks that mimick indices or sub- groups of an index (resources, consumer goods, etc), but carry no fees other than the stock brokerage fee to buy and/or sell.

          • jdzlr June 21, 2020, 6:55 pm

            Your post is still there! You think etfs are cheaper than vanguard?

      • Wookey February 1, 2017, 7:15 am

        Indeed. Vanguard invented both index trackers and the concept of cheap funds. There is an excellent Planet Money podcast all about it http://www.npr.org/sections/money/2016/03/04/469247400/episode-688-brilliant-vs-boring

        John C. Bogle is probably a mustachian hero.

      • jdzlr June 21, 2020, 6:55 pm

        Thanks for the insight

    • Jake November 23, 2014, 9:05 am

      Hey, I was wondering if there’s a Canadian equivalent to Vanguard. It looks like it’s american investments only, which would make tax time a little more complicated for me.

      • Mr. Money Mustache November 23, 2014, 12:19 pm

        Hey Jake, there sure is – Vanguard Canada. And a few good competitors. Do a search for “Canadian investing with Mr. Frugal Toque” and read both of his articles for some great words on Canadian Investing.

  • jlcollinsnh January 11, 2012, 9:55 pm

    by the time our daughter was born my wife and I had been married 10 years. We both worked and enjoyed our jobs.

    When we decided Jane’d be a stay at home mom it was tough on her. She felt that not working she wasn’t “pulling her weight.’ we talked about this a long time. finally it was this that helped her get fully comfortable with the idea:

    What could we possibly buy with the money she’d ear working that had more value than her being a full time mom to Jessica?


  • Market Timer March 22, 2012, 9:46 pm

    Underrated post.

  • Silver Forge September 10, 2012, 7:36 am

    To the MMM fam- the posting is over a year old as I write this- so I guess I am late reading it now… but better late than never! My wife and I are on the path you present in this posting- she is farther along than my crotchity mindset and holding on to old habits… but they are slowly coming ’round… Thanks for the frankness and the open forum! I may be “LATE” to the party that is the MMM life- being older (40) and a bit more blue-collared than your stereotypical poster or yourself (hourly wage-slave and service industry fellow) but I am working on the independance- thanks for the community!

  • Zeb March 6, 2013, 4:47 pm

    How do you beat the fancy coffee habit? I wouldn’t even call good coffee my weakness because I love it so freaking much. I’d love to cut the cost though. I almost never buy coffee out (besides being ridiculously expensive it’s almost never as good as at home), but I still probably spend a couple or three hundred a year on beans.

    • Johnny March 20, 2013, 10:56 pm

      You’re optimizing the value you get by making the good stuff at home-there’s a world of difference between an $8 bag of good beans, and a $4 latte. As a fellow coffee lover, I say don’t worry about it :) Enjoy the indulgence and look for another expense to squash.

  • Nick October 3, 2013, 11:36 am

    Hi MMM, I have been reading for the past few weeks and I am loving your blog so far. I am 25 and have been relatively frugal since getting out of college. I am an Engineer and my wife (recently married) is studying to become a doctor. I take care of all of the finances because she doesn’t like to worry about money. She is all for saving money by eating out less and purchasing items on craigslist. Whenever I bring up early retirement, she doesn’t seem to buy in. She says that she wants to travel and see the world and I try to tell her that we can still do that if we cut back. Do you have any suggestions on how to convince her? Thanks!

    • bwall January 30, 2014, 12:20 pm

      Do the math. Then show her the math. It’s hard to argue with cold, hard facts.

      If she still doesn’t want to, then there is a reason. It’s your job to find out the reason!

  • Teresa December 12, 2013, 11:54 am

    My husband and I have been dedicated readers for one year, but this is my first comment. He stumbled upon MMM when he googled the concept of “hedonic adaptation.” We weren’t big consumers to begin with and also already very happy – but thanks to your blog this last year has been an amazing one of change and ever-increasing happiness. We feel so blessed to be on the same page about finances.

    This quote below made me laugh so hard, because we relate so much:
    “It’s also nice to have such a complicated common interest. We can talk for hours about future plans, how to be able to afford them by being even more frugal or shuffling money this way or that, and about how incredibly bright things are looking in general. It would probably sound pretty mundane and self-congratulatory to an outsider, but it beats arguing about who didn’t do the dishes.”

    Thank you MMM!!!!!!!!

  • vr August 27, 2014, 5:22 am

    I have been reading your blog and other saving-oriented blogs for a few weeks now and am completely sold to the idea of early retirement, don’t know what hit me but something has just snapped in my head :) I’m 29 now and my quick calculations are showing that I could switch from a 5-day work week to a 4-day week in less than two years and still save over 10k/year. Maybe start a small business and use that 1 day per week earning on my own passions (glass fibre parts for cars, carpentry, collecting berries and mushrooms from the forest, etc).

    Now we come to the difficult subject. My gf isn’t bying this idea at all. She just seems so very reluctant to the idea of cutting the cable-internet, letting go of gym membership and trading the ’07 Volkswagen to an older car, or even biking instead of driving (her mentality is that you must be able to drive everywhere right to the front doors with a car). I think we will be having a very long discussion one day in the near future where it will be me&my saving habits&her or me&my saving habits without her. We are still fairly “fresh” so this is the time when we need to figure out if we have enough common interests or not and this seems to be a big deal for me…

    • Lisa November 21, 2014, 11:08 pm

      My boyfriend of two years is similar. I love him very much but he has recently announced his intention to build a Warhammer 40k army over several years that should cost… fifteen thousand dollars. I visibly baulked. As someone who has been toying with the concept of early retirement for over six months now, to have a goal of that kind of sum and not use it to generate more profits seems insane.

      That said, he likes to spend money but he is very *very* good at making it stretch, and likes to say that with my saving ability and his spending ability, we’ll make a good team. I’d prefer a little less spending, but I’m glad he thinks of our partnership as a team.

      What concerns me is that you don’t really seem to think of you and your gf as a team. You can’t force the way you want to live on your partner (though sometimes I wish!). Try and find some compromises–for example you could find out what routines she does at the gym. Since most machines are extremely inefficient, odds are that with a little research you guys could figure out a way to do a new, more efficient routine, at a nearby park. You could turn it into couple time (if she doesn’t see her gym time as ‘me’ time).

      The other thing you could do is start up some conversations about the inefficiency of the way society is run these days, etc, and help these ideas to germinate in her mind on their own.

      • Mr. Money Mustache November 22, 2014, 2:14 pm

        Wow, I had to look up what “Warhammer 40k” is, but the result was pretty scary to me. Supremely expensive collectible adult toys? That don’t function as tools to create things of your own, generate income, or do much of anything? The collection of physical objects for their own sake is materialism at its purest and something worth questioning yourself over. Preferably with a mirror and a pair of boxing gloves ;-)

        Ask my friend J.D. Roth about his $30,000 comic book collection, how much it cost him over the years and how relieved he felt when he finally let it go.

        Games are great, social things. But there is no excuse for them to be expensive.

  • E_Ransom October 27, 2014, 9:50 am

    You only give it a brief mention in this post (since it isn’t a focal point), but you could write a whole post (heck, a whole blog) on how the library can be used as a money saver.

    Oh sure, simple things are obvious. Free books, movies, music, cheap printing (usually), online resources. But try free research assistance. Try free wifi. Try public phones (no need for a quarter here). Try free COMPUTERS.

    You want to go intensely frugal? Drop that internet and cell phone bill, don’t worry about saving for the latest Mac, and replace it with a library card. Which, if you live in the city limits, is going to cost you… nothing. Sure, not everyone can lose their cell phone or their high performance, solid gold, super machine. But for those of us who can, a library card is basically a blank check. We just choose what numbers to fill in.

  • Dan February 17, 2015, 12:23 pm

    Hey Mr MMM,

    I’m new to MMM and frugality and budgeting thanks to a 2015 New years resolution. I started with YNAB in Jan and its worked wonders for me so far. But now I’m ready to take it 1 step further and try to learn some things from you. You mention setting up an account in Vangaurd in this post. Maybe you can write a post (or link one i haven’t read yet) about getting started in investing and different options for different levels of investors. What If i only have $1000 to invest now, but in 5 months it could be 5,000? what if i only have 1000 to invest and it stays just that much for some time? whay if i have $100 this month and will be able to add $100 every month? Do i do vangaurd? Betterment? Wealthfront? Schward is coming out with a robo investor?

    I want to invest my savings, but i also want it to be fairly “liquid” so I can use it to buy a house, or a car, or whatever.

    Sorry for commenting on an old post, love what I’ve read so far.

  • Javier February 26, 2015, 8:44 pm

    By far the most seemingly difficult thing so far. I’m a newlywed and my wife came from a fairly wealthy family, was one of two kids and was/is spoiled to death by her mother. This talk is so difficult to have with her because she’s never worried about money the way I have and has yet to be in a financial bind her mother didn’t bail her out of.

    WHAT DO I DO??? How do I get her to have this talk seriously with me? We’ve tried before but she just says “ok, $100 on food, $50 on gas blah blah blah, that sounds good. Are we done?”

    I’m at a loss of how to approach her in a way she would take me seriously.

    • Mr. Money Mustache March 3, 2015, 9:48 am

      Hi Javier. Normally I’d tell you to call off the wedding, but I see I’m too late for that :-)

      You still have a few choices. You can quietly set your own example by living the way you want to live, while she does hers. Or one or both of you can make a shitload of money to make sure you can still save 75% of your take-home pay even while she spends freely.

      If you’re happily married, it can’t be all that bad. I’m probably too demanding in my own standards of financial and lifestyle agreement – I wouldn’t do well in a relationship with a woman who liked to drive around and hit the shopping malls just for the joy of it, for example.

  • CC September 3, 2015, 10:11 am

    My husband got me started on this blog and is starting to regret it. His version of ‘the talk’ several months ago was citing this blog and complaining about my Amazon/ Kindle spending habits (guilty as charged at an average of $42/month this year). After reading through all of the blog entries in 3 weeks, I cut the housekeeper, changed internet providers ($40/month savings), cancelled wine clubs (I need a face shield from all the face punching going on), cut our grocery bill by $200/week, cut insurance coverage ($80/ month savings), deleted useless subscriptions on On-Star and XM Radio, etc. In short, I cut $1,000/month from our spending on items we don’t even notice. With some other misc annual and semi annual expenses I cut, I will reduce our spending by over $20,000 per year. We though we were doing well, we have no debt, a substantial net worth, college savings for our two children (4 and 6) and plans to retire in 5 years. We’ve been saving my income for the 10 years we have been married, but with only a few changes, we moved our projected savings rate this year to over 50% of our combined take home pay.
    Back to my original reason for posting, I resented the way my husband approached our spending, by picking out the few items I spent money on. By me reading this blog, I got interested in this process and willingly cut my spending back significantly. (That works for two reasons, 1 MMM is very good at persuasive writing and 2, I don’t take criticism well from my husband.) Now I am challenging him. Just yesterday I ran a calculation on my husband’s wakeboard boat. He didn’t appreciate me pointing out that his boat cost us $11,562 in the 5 years we owned it with depreciation, storage fees (yes, he pays someone to store his boat), licensing fees and insurance. I didn’t even include the maintenance cost, repairs or gas.
    Going through our expenditures, he is the high spender by making several large purchases per year, versus my monthly Amazon and Stitch Fix purchases (ducking from another face punch). Instead, I plan on adjusting my spending down. If he doesn’t want to reduce his spending, he can always keep working, and I will get to start staying home with my little people in 2 years.
    The key is how you present the case for reducing spending. Don’t grab on to your significant other’s $42/month (now $10/month) spending habit while ignoring your own $192/month spending habit.

    • Mr. Money Mustache September 3, 2015, 5:39 pm

      WOW, that is fantastic Ms C! Glad you turned the tables. Now you can tell your husband that Mr. Money Mustache is lobbying for him to sell his wake boat. Instead, he can buy some fast, awesome sea kayaks which you can use on almost any waterway and increase your satisfaction because you’re working it and being part of nature. And don’t worry – a recreational Kayak is still a party boat, complete with dry storage areas and beer holders. They are the foundation of much of my own summer cottaging at the lake.

  • Gemma Marie October 27, 2015, 7:10 pm

    So I got started on this blog a while ago and it led me down a path that has entirely changed my worldview and how I view materialism, for which I am forever grateful! However, I’m a single lady in my late 20s, and had a difficult time before meeting someone with similar interests/values, etc, but now forget it! It is so challenging to find someone with same views on materialism and frugal living. I know this site isn’t for dating advice, but does anybody have any suggestions? Or do you think I would be better off compromising or attempting to change someone’s view and have “the talk.” I don’t like the idea of having to change someone for us to be compatible, but I also feel my hope dwindling for meeting someone who already believe in the same things. Maybe Mr. Money Mustache should create a dating app?! That’s my only idea at this point.

    • Mr. Money Mustache October 29, 2015, 5:07 pm

      There are a lot of us out here Gemma – often expressing the same frustration about finding people with similarly thought out views on life. Check out the forum and come out to some MMM events!

    • Spirivid June 11, 2016, 1:58 pm

      I don’t know if you’ll still be reading answers to this, Gemma, but that’s a great question!

      Truth is, many people are dating in a niche of some kind (mine is: born-again, spirit-filled Christian (guy!), over the age of 40!). The most attractive version of you is when you are doing the things you’re passionate about. And who knows, but talking up frugal living might lead to that conversation that leads to meeting the one?

      My tip: be open about your goals; don’t compromise (by which I mean, don’t insist on never giving an inch, but DO seek somebody who shares your values and ambitions rather than settling for someone who doesn’t), and be up-front about what you are hoping to get out of life. (Many people in unhappy relationships are there because they didn’t talk about their goals and values to find out if they wanted the same things.)

      Put something upbeat about frugal living (and maybe a reference to Mr. Money Mustache!) on your dating profile, etc., etc.

      May you meet the right person soon!

  • Nicole Knapp April 13, 2016, 8:34 pm

    Loving the blog. I know nothing about investment on Vanguard or any other site. In fact it has always scared me (and my husband). Just wondering if you have any advice for someone who lives in New Zealand. I’m from the states but live in NZ now and wouldn’t even know where to begin. How did you learn about investing? Did you teach yourself or take a class? I know this comment is FIVE years late but hoping you still check these and can offer some advice.

    • Martin May 5, 2016, 3:24 am

      Hi Nicole, I hope it is okay that I reply, even though I am not MMM :)

      I would recommend that you check out some financial blogs, you can learn heaps from them. I am not from NZ but surely there must plenty of those around. I also recommend a trip to the local library/book shop. Just ask for books on investing, to get you started.

      For example, you could check out:
      Why Stocks Go Up and Down (William Pike)
      Why We Are So Clueless About the Stock Market (Mariusz Skonieczny)
      (both also available on Amazon)

      to get a general idea on how the stock market works.

      Then you could move on to books like:
      Investing for Dummies (Eric Tyson)


      There are of course many more books around, but those should get you started.

      Furthermore, you could register at Sharetrader.co.nz and ask for advice how to get started investing. You could check out this forum:

      But once again, I would recommend national financial/investment blogs, as they provide information that is relevant for you in NZ.

      Good luck!

  • Wound Licker May 27, 2016, 6:28 am

    After reading how MMM and Mrs.MM compare net worth summaries, I was wondering: for the sake of investment returns, interest compounding, etc, time to retirement, does it matter if my spouse and I have two separate investment accounts at a lower balance, or one combined account with a higher balance (using Betterment, non IRA accounts as an example.)

    Loving the blog, although late to the race.

  • Mrs. Picky Pincher June 10, 2016, 7:28 am

    Mr. Picky Pincher and I have been fortunate that we have the same financial goals. However, I’m definitely the more frugal (and sometimes bordering on miserly) one. Sometimes we have to balance each other out, like when we want to make an expensive purchase, to keep ourselves on track. It’s all about teamwork! I can’t imagine having a spouse with opposite goals. Finances are difficult enough; opposing financial habits are not great for a harmonious marriage.

  • Roni Arbel August 25, 2016, 4:54 am

    Just stopped by to thank you for your blog, all the way from Jerusalem, Israel (where no public library is within reach but Kindle spendings are less than 25$/year).

    Just a quick note on the single/couple savings opportunities – as a married couple we save much more than as two single (just as frugal) people. For instance two people in the same room need less electricity to keep it warm (we average 15$). Food costs are also lower when buying for two (although I can’t explain it no matter how much I try). Rent is also lower for a small apartment vs. 2 rooms in a shared apartment. And even vacations are cheaper (some places charge per tent rather than per person, and air bnb apartments don’t mind the number of people). (And the obvious different in taxes favoring couples though this may be different in every country)

  • Be September 24, 2016, 8:45 am

    I have tried to ease into The Talk (of future, no interest in children for me) but the response I received was that I’m extremely non-materialistic and the husband is average or above average in material wants for a US American.
    I am from New Zealand from a working class/low income/high child count family while he is from a middle class (6 figure household income) family with a grand total of one sibling.
    Is anyone else battling class and culture differences this way? It did help when I shared the news that my tiny ‘stache was growing rapidly, however, I guess it helps to see the numbers.

  • Philip June 24, 2017, 6:21 pm

    Another great article. I can’t get enough of your blog and I am so pleased every time I find another article I haven’t read before.

    Quick question – what’s your thoughts, if you have a significant other, about combining your accounts together in terms of bank accounts, investment accounts etc? Is it better to have 2 separate pots from which you draw your own money or is it better to combine and have a bigger single pot?

    Just a side note I am currently single and loving life, just curious for when I find that fellow Mrs M further down the line.

    Keep up the writing, I can’t tell you how much I enjoy learning more and actually implementing it.

  • Joel June 17, 2018, 1:45 pm

    Hey MMM,

    Newer fan here, how do you make the balance between supporting authors/creative works that you get something out of (like books) and saving frugally? I’m working on my early retirement, but I also enjoy reading and learning new things and I think it’d be harder to find authors who can help me in that if they can’t make much money out of it

    – Joel

  • Amy C January 14, 2020, 12:57 pm

    Hi there!

    First of all, I am so excited that I stumbled across this blog. THANK YOU x a million. I am going to get right to my question.
    I am 30 years old, a single mom of 3 kids. I make $51,500 in gross income each year and an additional $14,000 a year in child support. I have some credit card debt, a mortgage that I consistently get behind on because I have been terrible at managing my money. I have made the decision to be REAL with myself and my spending habits. I want to apply MMM to my life but I want to know if you think I am a good candidate for the MMM way of life? I add money to savings every month, just to end up pulling it back out. HELLLP

    • Elizabeth S February 25, 2021, 4:15 am

      Hi Amy,
      This is a year late, but it might also help someone else!

      I came across this site after being signposted from YNAB (you need a budget). It’s free for the first month, it’s awesome, I’ve saved (not spent!) an awful lot, and I highly recommend it.

      From what you’ve said, I think it could also really help you. Also, any MMM traits you are incorporating into your lifestyle are always great, but first you really need to get on top of your budget!

  • Arjan September 22, 2020, 3:01 pm

    Damn it, this blog inspires to ‘gamify’ life and money choices but also leaves me with constant feelings of guilt. For instance: I bought a 40 Euro (ca. 38 USD) kit to rework some nasty major scratches in the paint of my car, instead of having a professional do it for >600 EUR. Since it’s an old car, and the benefit in resell/trade-in value in a year or two (when I expect the car is ripe for replacement) for having decent looking paint will hardly be anywhere over 500 EUR (expect it to be worth max 3000 by then). I figured if I don’t completely mess it up myself the 40 EUR should at least pay itself back in less addresses/negotation needed when selling/trading itin and if it turns out great it can earn me a few hundred bucks, and best of all it doesn’t cost me a few hundred buck today.

    But somehow, I feel guilty because I know that the main motivation to fix the scratches is that I don’t want to drive around in a dodgy looking car, even though it is perfect (another Honda) in terms of comfort, reliability and decent mileage. So thanks for driving me to question my every financial decision, I guess?


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