The Economics of Divorce

Image result for heart break emojiEven in the most carefully run and financially independent of lives, there will be some wrenching twists and turns.

Friendships and businesses will fail. You or your loved ones will get sick and some of them will die. Kids will have plenty of trouble on their long road to adulthood – if they even make it. And all around you, there will be a sea of fighting and breakups and divorces and mismatched relationships that you wish would end, for your sake or that of your best friends.

With all of this happening, it’s a wonder that we can remain happy and productive and even thrive as humans. But we can. And we do. Because sometimes life just serves up a shit salad and we don’t have a choice in the matter, but we always have a choice of how to respond to it.

So if you haven’t already heard through the rumor mill, the former Mrs. Money Mustache and I are no longer married. Although we had been drifting this way for a while, the formal change of our status is still less than a year old, so it’s still a topic that deserves some quiet respect*.

The downfalls of our own relationship are personal and not something we choose to make public, but you’ve heard it all before anyway. Sometimes people just grow apart over the decades and no matter how much they work at the relationship, find that they want different things from life. And when this happens, not even the greatest advantages of a lifetime money surplus or a supportive network of great friends and family or living in a beautiful place can save you.

Update: Some of the negative speculators have assumed “your wife dumped you because you were too frugal.” This part may be necessary to address because of the money theme of this blog.

The answer is NO. I was the one who asked for the separation so you can blame me for it. And no, there were no frugality issues because earning and accumulating money was always extremely easy for us. We spent whatever we wanted, we just happened to have finite desires. Plus I was not the “boss” of the house. Mrs. MM has always been an independent-minded person who is good with money and decides on her own spending.

So that’s the bad news. The good news is that we have had about the most amicable separation that one could hope for, we all still spend plenty of time together and our son is still in the same loving environment he has always had. And I would venture to say that both of us parents are going to come out of the experience much better off than we were before.

See, even the harshest moments come with a little golden key taped secretly onto their side, which you can use to unlock personal growth and greater future happiness. But only if you choose to accept that key and put it to use.

I’m not going to sit here and pretend that there weren’t plenty of harsh moments for both of us, both before and during this experience, with plenty more still to come. Because divorce, especially with children and family and traditions involved, is really fucking hard. 

But guess what? There are a lot of things in life that are hard. Being born and going through childhood is hard. Having babies of your own is even harder. School and jobs are hard, and money is really hard for most people. Relationships and friendships and dealing with bossy or dysfunctional friends or family or parents, personal habits and addictions, and everything else. Life is full of hardships.

But throughout all of it, we always have a choice about how to deal with them.

We can choose to focus on how unfair the situation is, how we were right and we tried our best and the world still mistreated us. And we can fight back, chasing the unfair person or company or situation and get revenge. We can make sure they know exactly why they were wrong and every way in which they were flawed.

And we can collect bathtubs full of sympathetic tears from our friends. And burn years on reliving the past, with a mixture of regret and vengeful self-righteousness and self-pity.

– OR – 

We can get right back to work on positive things to rebuild our lives. Improving ourselves through better habits and health. Building new relationships and nurturing old ones, and making sure we put out only positive energy to every person in our lives, including our ex-spouse. Building everyone up and never, ever tearing anyone down. Because they already do that plenty to themselves.

Like almost everything else in life, human nature draws us to the easier but more destructive of these paths, and only self-knowledge and self-discipline can lift us out of that rut and place us onto the more productive one. And even then, our human nature will keep pulling us back and we’ll make mistakes. And then we’ll have to drag ourselves back out of that rut again. And put the happy face back on, and start behaving like an adult again.

As one friend puts it, “Being a divorced coparent is like being the co-owner of a business. Except it’s the most important company in the world and having it fail is not an option. So you have to treat your business partner accordingly.”

It has been a hard year. But at the same time, I feel we have both already learned so much, that it seems almost impossible that the experience won’t help both of us live better lives in the future. We are both doing well in forming new relationships and supportive of the other’s success in that important aspect of moving on.

But this is usually a personal finance blog. What does my romantic life have to do with your financial life? Not too much in the specifics, but quite a bit in general, because about half of all marriages end in divorce, and I have found it can be quite a tricky minefield to navigate.

First of all, there is the effect on your child raising, which is a parent’s most important job in life. In the best scenario, the end of a marriage is just a change to your love life, and you can continue to collaborate with your former spouse in a wonderful and open way. But the more conflict you have with that ex, the harder it is to cooperate, which leads to a worse experience for everyone – especially your children.

Then there is the social shame attached to divorce in our culture. While it could be looked at as the natural and peaceful end of an arrangement that has just run its course, other people will see it as a failure or a betrayal or a sin. In fact, when rumour of our separation got out, multiple gossipy and negative and downright distasteful discussions formed around the Internet – on Reddit, other bloggers’ websites, even right here on my own forum. People who don’t even know you, will speculate on your character and your motives. It adds pain to an already difficult situation. The only way to survive this is to ignore it and focus on your own internal compass.

And finally there is the famed financial cost of divorce. It is legendary for destroying lives and fortunes, and indeed this is sometimes accurate. This is because conflict is a form of war, and war is the most expensive thing humans have ever invented. And if you hire lawyers and other specialists to fight on your behalf, you just multiply the damage and the cost and stretch out the timeline.

But fortunately, like everything else, going to war is almost always a choice.

And if you don’t choose to fight, a divorce doesn’t have to cost much at all. Two people can peacefully collect up their financial and physical belongings and go their separate ways, and the only cost is in any duplication of possessions you choose to do, to replace things you formerly shared.

So the former Mrs. MM and I (mostly under her guidance!) worked through the do-it-yourself paperwork and paid a $265 fee to the county court for the divorce. I bought the lowest-cost house in the neighborhood, just a 2.5 minute bike ride down the hill from the family house, and I’ve already fixed it up and started hosting Airbnb rentals to help make it carry its own weight. I left the Nissan Leaf behind and chose not to buy a car of my own because I already have bikes.

We share plenty of time with our son and he is doing amazingly well – because we are choosing to make this new life about growth rather than conflict.

And most notably from the perspective of early retirement and financial independence, having enough money in advance has made this part of the split much less painful. Both of us can remain retired and continue to live in mortgage-free houses with investments easily covering our living expenses, while sharing child raising expenses. Although I chose to buy a house, nobody had to compromise on quality of life or sell the expensive family house.

Because I enjoy moderate living for its own sake, my own cost of living will go way down. And because I continue to enjoy writing and working, my income may continue to stay high through this next stage of my life. I’ll continue to use the surplus for projects and philanthropy just as before, but the point here is that one’s relationship status does not have to affect their financial status.

As a long-time reader said to me in a recent email as we discussed our shared fate, having a solid financial cushion and low expenses and lifestyle flexibility, has made the best of an otherwise difficult situation – especially in not having to disrupt the lives of our kids.

Still, having been through it, I would not recommend divorce as a decision to be taken lightly. If you’re still married and there is even a chance that you want it to last, you might consider the following steps.

How to Stay Married

Read about how to stay married – early and often. Peruse the bountiful relationship advice section at Amazon and definitely check out the 5 Love Languages book that resonates strongly with so many people.

Most of us (myself included) drift through the years, assuming we are doing a perfectly good job at being married, while unintentionally making all the same mistakes that everyone else makes.

Bad idea.

You need to proactively nurture a close, loving relationship before things get too dire, and never take it for granted. Because many bits of damage you do to a relationship are permanent. You cannot nag or criticize your partner for years and expect them to forgive you when you eventually see the light. And for those being nagged: you cannot ignore the requests of your partner for years, and expect them to forgive you for that either.

There are so many things, like being on each other’s team in times of hardship, and being genuinely excited and greeting your partner warmly at the door if they’ve been away, that fall to the side in marriages as they get stale. Every time you let this slide, you do a bit of permanent damage. The effects are cumulative like erosion, not temporary like moods or weather.

So the bad news is that there is definitely such thing as “too late.” At some point, the idea of “working on” a marriage sounds like hell because you have been waiting for so long to be able to escape it.

But the good news is that it might not be too late for you, if you do want to stay married. And the benefits begin immediately – if both people are working at it, every positive gesture from one side will be met with a positive one from the other, and they can reinforce each other into a beautiful upward spiral.

But if You’d Rather Not Stay Married

The flipside of all this is that many, many people are currently married, who should not be and don’t want to be.

You may be two perfectly great people with irreconcilable differences, or there might be one great person stuck with an abusive user or loser, or any other combination in the grand spectrum of possible humans. And it is important for these people to hear that although divorce is always difficult, sometimes it really is the best choice and there should not be shame or blame associated with this choice.

Every human needs and deserves to be accepted and loved – even the people who drive us crazy and even those who treat us poorly. They are who they are and while you can’t change them, you can’t make the world any better by spitting venom back at them. So your best strategy is to carve them out of your life, while keeping your words as kind and respectful as you possibly can.

And heed the wise words of my own relationship and coparenting counselor, who noted that the first months after any divorce are the times of greatest conflict. And then it gets easier. And easier. And mellower and friendlier. And after a few years, many former divorcees have moved on so happily that can’t even believe that they were ever angry at each other. That’s entirely possible, and it should be your goal.

So lean on friends, talk to a relationship counselor even if it is just by yourself (yes, it’s really worth it!), read books, laugh, cry, learn mindfulness and meditation, eat salads, get outside and exercise, write more new things and build new things and new businesses and new relationships, and you will come through it better than ever.

That’s what I’ll be up to in 2019.  I hope your new year is even better!

In the Comments: I have found it so helpful over this past year to share with others and realize that I am not alone in this. Feel free to share your own experiences and hopes and fears anonymously.

My comment form allows you to use a pseudonym so you can be anonymous while you let out the truth. And read the other comments, to see what other people around you are feeling.

And for those who have been through this and gotten through the other side and found happiness, go ahead and share your message of hope.

* A bit of social approrpriateness that seems to be lost on certain forum participants and even other bloggers, who we won’t call out here. Please don’t be like them – using the Internet to publicly gossip about strangers helps nobody.



  • SiberianFur February 1, 2019, 9:27 am

    I have always respected your blog; although, I have been a part-time follower. This post was well written and only makes my respect for you increase. I went through a divorce that shattered my world but not my finances almost 10 years ago. We also printed our paperwork from an online legal provider and were adults about splitting assets. We actually had a prenuptial and chose not to use it. Would have cost us more money to enforce the prenup, was not necessary since this was the only area we could be adults about. Divorce has been the worse thing I have yet to face in life. BUT there is hope. I am now remarried. My second marriage is better because of lessons I learned from the first failure. My ex is not a bad person. The relationship just didn’t have the right balance for long term potential. I wish my ex the best in the future; although, we have no need to establish any contact today. I am a testament that there is Hope beyond the darkness of divorce. Just take it one day at a time.

  • Dan February 3, 2019, 1:10 pm

    MMM, I’m very sorry to hear about your divorce. I am really proud of you for being amicable with your spouse and focusing on your son. Hang in there.

  • Darlene February 10, 2019, 4:39 pm

    So sorry to hear about your divorce and really appreciate all your advice, mostly because I believe everything you write is geared toward making this world a better place and the only way to do that is to make people better. . My hubby and I will be married 30 years in August, together 37 years, we have 4 kids and for many years it was just the job of raising our kids that overwhelmed our relationship and caused us to “forget about each other.” Our youngest left for college six months ago and it has finally been time for us, changed us from just mom and dad, back to Craig and Darlene. We are both loving that part of our relationship, reading your how to stay married has really kick-started our relationship renewal for me. Thanks for your insight, sometimes you can’t learn something till you live it and I thank you for sharing! Just so you know, this 54 year old, received your face- punching and is working to make her life better and the world better in numerous ways, including her relationship and is planning to get a bike!! Sending best wishes for your family- marriage status doesn’t matter one bit!!!

  • Curious February 11, 2019, 6:58 pm

    I’m asking this anonymously. But I wonder if MMM would do a blog post – or if the other commenters could enlighten me – about what the benefit of marriage is in the first place? I’ve heard all the usual reasons: it’s a life-long commitment, it’s a declaration of our love, it’s good for the kids, it’s a tax break, etc. But to me it just seems like a binding legal contract with no enforceable terms or conditions up front, and potentially awful consequences at the end. Tons of people have asked me “why aren’t you married?” or “why haven’t you ever been married?” (I’m not, and I never have been) but none of those people have ever been able to lay out a strong, coherent, logical case in favor of marriage in the first place, or even tell me what it actually is. And when I ask those same people “why did you get married?” the answer is usually vague or something like “I wouldn’t do it again.” I’d love to hear MMM’s perspective on this puzzling question, because it seems like I’m in the tiny minority regarding the subject of marriage. Thanks!

    • Mr. Money Mustache February 12, 2019, 9:06 am

      Yes! I now agree with this puzzlement, Curious.

      I guess if you are going to have kids, it’s a weird legal lockdown that shows you are willing to make it difficult to bolt at the first sign of trouble. And for some, there are strong romantic and/or religious implications to the bond.

      But aside from immigration/citizenship stuff (which was definitely a factor for us), there aren’t really many true practical benefits since taxes and employer benefits can work the same with unmarried couples as well.

      Especially with my kid-producing years definitely done, I don’t think I would ever consider a formal marriage again. But if I’m wrong someday, you can look at this public statement on the internet and laugh at me :-)

  • Charlotte February 12, 2019, 2:53 pm

    So sorry to hear this. There were a lot of divorces in my family (including three between my parents and their exes) and it left a lot of wreckage. The only thing I have to say is that you can’t assume a child is doing well after a divorce just because they aren’t crying, aren’t constantly angry, or tell you they’re “fine.” This is especially true while you’re still in the first post-divorce months and the reality and finality of their new situation is still sinking in. Divorced parents love to tell themselves that as long as their divorce is amicable and they learn to coparent peacefully, their child will be just fine. Maybe even better off! It’s a time of growth for all, and everything in life is going to be hard anyway. Don’t fall for it. Refusing to acknowledge the impact on them only makes it worse. Unless the marriage was significantly abusive or chaotic, kids are hurt worse by a divorce than by remaining in an intact family.

  • Bonnie February 13, 2019, 6:00 am

    Divorce sucks no matter the reason and I’m sorry to hear you both are going through this. Sometimes however it is necessary and it sounds like you are both going working through this That is good to hear. I know it’s not easy.

    I went through one fifteen years ago. The stress can take a toll and outsiders with negative opinions just have to be ignored. None of it is easy so I wish you both the best.

    Personally for me life got so much better time did help heal. Many others have reported this as well. I hope the same for you

  • Jim February 14, 2019, 3:22 am

    Dear MMM: I read this with sadness. Thanks for sharing. I’ve been through a contentious divorce that involved lawyers. The lawyers made lots of money and we burned through our entire retirement savings and college for the kids savings. During the battle I was willing to spend any amount just to insure that I have my children in my life and they have me. The options seemed either never see your children again or pay the family court system and associated lawyers and child therapists. I spent tons of money with little progress until I ran out of money. Once I ran out of money and went to court without a lawyer I was able to procure a fair 50/50 custody. My big epiphany came one day when I was using credit cards to pay my lawyer…I was in the court house speaking with lawyers from both sides and both lawyers turned to me with the same greedy look in their eyes and said at the same time “of course you are going to sell the house?” I realized that even my own lawyer was not acting like perry mason ( in my interest). I could tell that all that was on their mind was secure a large payment from me. Right then I decided to give my house and the business to my ex and continue without a lawyer. ( I did find a lawyer who would act as my coach for much lower fees). Any how. Hindsight divorce is a terrible thing I never wanted to get divorced in the first place. I admire you for your post and for the maturity that you and your ex are showing in continuing to get along and work together. It’s very painful for children to know that their parents are fighting. The fact that you are working together will mean much to your children.. After the ravages of divorce I have had to hone all my skills of DIY and living lean and saving. I was grateful to find the MMM website and it has been inspirational.. Keep up the great work. Keep a forgiving and loving heart. and many blessings to you and your family.

    • Mr. Money Mustache February 14, 2019, 6:46 am

      That’s an amazing story Jim and I’m so sorry to hear it – although it sounds like you are going to come out of it all right.

      Stories like this are making me realize why divorce carries such a stigma: it is so often associated with massive interpersonal conflict (and of course lawyers, which I still think are usually being used for the wrong reasons: for theft or as weapons rather than just enforcing real contracts.)

      When you really think about it, at the core, divorce should be a GOOD thing: if BOTH parties to a relationship don’t want to be in it, then why the hell should that relationship continue? So it’s allowing one or both people to set things right, which is obviously a win in the long run.

      I think our society should consider the divorce part to be neutral, but our behavior to the former partner AFTER divorce should be the part that’s measured. I am always shocked when people stop treating each other kindly – in any situation, really. We need to be nicer to each other!

  • Tim February 14, 2019, 9:09 am

    “I am always shocked when people stop treating each other kindly – in any situation, really. We need to be nicer to each other!”

    These are the most intelligent words I have seen written in a long time. At the core, all it really takes is to be kind. If you don’t agree with someone – fine. You don’t have to agree. But why be unkind?

    I do enjoy your site and your writing. Best wishes in all of your future endeavors.

  • LS February 17, 2019, 2:53 pm

    There are more and more amicable divorces. Mine was too. You just picked a good-hearted person through thick and thin. Some are health or distance related (raising my hand). Life is a journey and you make it the best you can.

  • anon2389 February 18, 2019, 9:27 am

    Best wishes to you MMM, and to the former Mrs. MM, and to your child. Thank you for sharing your story. The most difficult stories are often the most helpful for others. I commend you both for your example of amicable parting when parting is the only choice. I wish you two didn’t have the opportunity to model the adroit navigation of such challenges, as hard as they may be. The manner of your parting is an appreciated and rarely shared lesson for us all. Your choice to share may truly lift others up. You two have made great gains in educating the masses (myself included) on frugality and good living. Perhaps as you and the former Mrs. MM carefully curate your manifested lives, your joint insights shared will bring others new expanded purpose and meaning. We are all in this together. Please continue your work in the manner you see fit. Thank you, and my very best wishes to you all.

  • Janus February 18, 2019, 10:34 am

    I’ve really enjoyed reading a number of the blog posts here (I particularly like the spirited debate that often ensues because I think with healthy debate comes real growth). I decided to dive in on this one, probably because I too went through a divorce. First a comment: having been through a divorce, I can say that it is difficult (especially with children), but that it does get better over time and can open you up to many new opportunities. My question, however, is a little more broad-sweeping for the Mustache community, and I really could never figure out where to post this question: how would you advise someone at mid-life who has basically made every possible mistake you can make, according to the ethos of this website? I’m talking: didn’t save enough when I was younger (or lost much of what I had saved in the internet bubble, the housing crash, the great recession, the divorce), live in an expensive area (complicated reasons why I cannot just “move out” involving my new relationship, my shared custody, etc..,) have a big mortgage, correct that, a h-u-g-e mortgage, have an expensive commute into this quaint little island some of you may have heard of called Manhattan…the list goes on and on. You name it, I’ve probably done it the wrong way. So, is there any advice that might help me? I can continue my long slow slide into retirement that is built on my past choices, or I can try to change course. But so many things seem set in stone now. My business is located in Manhattan where I have a business partner who will not want to move the location. My family is located in the ‘burbs where I have a new mate, and an ex, and where my children live with me half of the time. I want to make changes but I’ve dug myself so deep! Is there a long mustache I can grab onto to pull myself out of this one?

    • Married to a Swabian February 24, 2019, 6:31 am

      Janus, since death and taxes are the only things that aren’t optional, it’s still possible to start inching your way towards Mustachianism! I would look at the huge mortgage first. Why not downsize to something more affordable? Can you find a place to live with lower property taxes? Those are a real budget killer. Just look at your monthly costs are start asking yourself, “Am I truly getting this much happiness from each of these areas of spending?” Many of the burbs close to Manhattan are going to be filled with Drone people stuck in the rat race and hell bent on impressing each other with Lexi, BMWs and fancy vacations and fashions. Don’t know if that’s the case in your situation, but it’ll be hard to go Mustachian in a neighborhood like that. You may also want to ask yourself if the gig in Manhattan is really the only game in town and worth it?

  • Frosty February 22, 2019, 7:09 pm

    Great article, and many helpful comments.  I’ve now been divorced as long as I was married (4 yrs).  My marriage was not a great experience.

    Relatively easy split, no lawyers, around $175 in county court costs.  I had much higher salary than him but he taught me to be a saver.  I left behind the rentals (he did all the work, seemed fair), which let him afford to keep our house for him and my stepson.  I moved into a small furnished apartment on a small lake, enjoying a clean slate and peaceful retreat.  Still there, shoveling money I would have spent on a house into investments.  I travel a lot for work so having a landlord do all the yardwork, snow removal, etc. is perfect.

    While I still believe in the institution of marriage, I struggle with the idea of second marriages (till death do us part, trust me I really mean it this time?).  But I probably would be a better wife if I tried it again.  For now I have a great relationship with a great guy and it’s working as-is.

    For me the fresh start after divorce was a tremendous gift. Sure, some tough days, of course.  Other days were so happy I felt guilty for being so happy.  And 4 yrs later I am better off financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually than ever. I try to manage my own attitude and choose to focus energy and attention positively.  Yesterday is gone, let it go and move forward being the best me I can possibly be. 

  • Miss Kris February 24, 2019, 2:13 pm

    I found your blog many years ago when I was still married and managing my family’s finances on a single income with two kids. My ex and I divorced in 2012 and while the divorce itself wasn’t expensive, it’s been so tough getting to the financial place I’d like to be. Having joint custody of our kiddos means we will continue to live close to each other…in the city of Seattle. After leaving the workforce for 5 years, I couldn’t even come close to making the income I was making when I left after my first son was born. Now my ex and I make very close to the same amount, but holy hell cost of living is expensive in this city. Supporting a household of three on a modest single income in an expensive city makes financial independence seem more and more like a fantasy. Moving to a less expensive city isn’t an option since my ex has no interest in moving. I’m working hard to increase my income but it’ll take years before I make what the typical Amazonian/Microsoftee who can actually afford the crazy cost of living here.

    Enough of the pity-party from me. I’d love more ideas on how to gain financial independence as a single parent after divorce. My 900-square-foot rental is way below market and it’s in a really accessible area of the city. We’re still needing to pay for before-school care and camps during spring break which is a good chunk of change.

  • Trip March 1, 2019, 6:24 am

    This is an excellent post and it’s a message that our youth desperately need to hear — divorce need not always be financially costly. This line is simply beautiful: “This is because conflict is a form of war, and war is the most expensive thing humans have ever invented.”

    What makes you one of the best bloggers in the FIRE space isn’t just how you write (your zingers ROCK), but also the topics you choose to write about.

    Another one of your best posts is the one where you share candidly about the loss of your father. You wrote it in such an emotionally moving way.

    I wish you and your family prosperous, long lives and all the best as you navigate this time of transition.
    Trip Seibold

  • Ms Trish March 4, 2019, 5:46 am

    Just saw this today. The one thing that stuck out for me is your involvement in your son’s life.
    I divorced just over 12 years ago. It was hard, but even though my kids were 6 & 9, I had always been a single mom. I was always alone and even though another adult lived with us, I didn’t have a partner. I realized I would be less frustrated and unhappy being single, as I was already “alone.” I struggled with this decision for over a year and tried to fix things because I didn’t want to scar my kids. But I was with someone who didn’t want to put in the effort. My psychologist made me realize though that a loveless, non partner marriage isn’t a great example to give your kids. Leaving amicably when you need to is a much better lesson.

    But it was very hard. I had trouble getting child support because we had an “amicable” agreement and I then couldn’t afford a lawyer. They almost never see their father. I made sure they spent alot of time with strong male role models like their two grandpas, but they were with me 24/7. The first time I was seperated from them for more than a few hours was in 2013!

    What I would say to anyone out there going through a divorce is to put your kids first. I raised mine alone, and today they are sweet, handsome and hardworking young men with strong relationships. But they needed their dad, as we all do.

    Kuddos to you for being a good dad. You will be fine, so will your son, just keep him close.
    All the best!

  • Nomads With a Vision March 19, 2019, 9:54 am


    Obviously I’m quite the latecomer to this post. I’m so sorry to hear about your divorce. I’m glad that things are working out amicably, but I know even an amicable divorce is super tough. I really appreciate you sharing and your advice. I’ve been married almost 20 years and it’s always great to get a reminder to treat my wife like the wonderful friend and partner that she is. I’ve always enjoyed hearing your perspective on life and enjoyed the hot tub discussions down in Ecuador.

    Take care, my friend, and hope to see you at FinCon in September. I’m bringing my wife this time to introduce her to the amazing community.

  • Christine April 1, 2019, 12:57 pm

    Hey Mr. MM,

    I’m so sorry to hear the news. As a long-time reader, it saddens me similarly to hearing that an old friend has gotten divorced. I’m happy to hear that you are handling it in the most mature and respectful way possible. My parents also divorced in this manner. A few discussions and a 300$ court fee. done and done. For me, it has remained a great source of respect for their ability to maneuver difficult situations in relationships and in general. I think your son will learn quite a bit from this and will look up to the both of your for a long time to come. mad props.

    Best of luck with everything!


  • Curtis April 19, 2019, 4:32 pm

    After reading your story, I wonder what would your retirement story would have been like if you only lived off of your income. Your ex-wife had a lot to do with the success you’ve had by contributing her income and not spending everything up. $100k+ income for years put you in a high tax bracket and gave you a lot of options with what to do with your money. How would this have worked if you were in a one income household at 60k?

    • Mr. Money Mustache April 19, 2019, 11:09 pm

      A couple or family that separates with less wealth has to make bigger adjustments – to live more frugally or go out and find new jobs. It’s often a big stress and makes a bad situation even worse. Which is sort of one of the reasons I felt this article has a place on a financial independence blog: by not having a shortage of money, at least we didn’t have to fight (much) over that side of it.

  • Jean April 19, 2019, 11:19 pm

    Tonight, I was dining on a delicious meal highlighted by MMM salad dressing. Realized I had never thanked you for this gem and signed on tonight to do just that. Your recipe has made my favorite salad dressing for years — never tire of it, always delightful.

    As I began to indulge in a binge reading session of MMM posts, I felt saddened for both you and the former Mrs. MM when landing on this report of the divorce. I’m deeply moved at how you both have handled this heavy life change. As I continued reading, I began to feel a real sense of hope and enthusiasm for you guys — as individuals and as parents. Money is nice yet nothing surpasses the freedom of a life lived in truth. One of the most loving actions we can offer another being. Admire the courage it took to respond to each other with honesty and perserverance. The results are worth it and only increase in value. You know you’re on the right track after having faced up to the hard work, bravely moving through the hurt and finding a life lived with grace, kindness and strength. Your words are healing, and I’m grateful.

  • Leah Hadley April 23, 2019, 6:38 pm

    I absolutely love the quote about co-parenting being like co-owners of the most important business in the world. I am going to try to work this into my discussion when I am mediating parenting plans.

    Wishing you the very best in this next chapter of your life. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Anonymous April 29, 2019, 5:17 am

    Saturday was the 8th anniversary of my divorce and I just read this yesterday. I’m very sorry this happened to you, even when it’s the right decison, it’s still a loss of the future you expected. I applaud your ‘take the high road’ approach. That is how I approached my divorce and most every day since. We did use a mediator, but the cost was minimal. We both walked away with a house and savings of our own plus our children’s college funds intact. We live five minutes apart so it’s been easy to share custody.
    My youngest child is off to college this fall. I am happy to say that both of my boys have thrived because we didn’t put them through a wringer. And they both get to go to college with very small student loans (enough to have skin in the game) because we didn’t blow their funds on fighting in court. That puts me on the verge of financial freedom at a time when so many are hunkering down for years of college payments and loans. I’m selling my house and downsizing now and will probably more to a less expensive locale in a few years.
    Sadly many people can’t see beyond their anger, hurt, betrayal, whatever, and take a disastrous path that hurts their kids and leaves them starting over with almost nothing at mid-life. Kudos to you and may this blog post inspire others who are divorcing to follow your lead.

  • Glenn April 29, 2019, 8:03 am

    I’m sorry to hear this. I’ve been through this myself and it’s rough at first, but it does get better. We’re actually amicable and our kids are better for it. All the best in your journey.

  • dixie May 1, 2019, 8:06 pm

    Tragic news.Divorce is like a death; only death is not optional. Probably the mistake of your life. You had a Proverbs 31 woman, worth more than rubies and dismissed her. Odd, you of all people, would fail to recognize her value. And what does divorce tell your son? It’s okay because 50% of Americans do it? Bible says God hates divorce. Admire your smarts and chutzpah for your chosen, successful lifestyle and for helping so many with your keen insights, but believe you’ll live to regret this decision. If you’re as smart as you seem, you’ll realize the error and correct it pronto before a stranger is fathering your child. Still look forward to your blog for valuable financial insight, but feel terrible for all three of you. Praying for reconciliation.

    • Mr. Money Mustache August 1, 2019, 9:43 pm

      I obviously disagree wholeheartedly with this perspective, as will every other person who has successfully navigated a divorce and come out the other side happy.

      But I left the comment intact just so other people can see the type of shame and blame that is packed into our society, a bias that is sometimes unfortunately uses religion as one of it support crutches.

      Don’t listen to it! Human relationships are a wonderful thing, but there is nothing wrong with moving on from one that is too hurtful to continue. Just be a kind, loving person through the whole process, keep working hard and being resourceful and you will come out of it stronger than before – just like the billions of people who have walked this same difficult path before you.

      Oh, and no, there is no “Stranger fathering my child”, you ridiculous person. It’s me being the Dad as always, and the beloved former Mrs. MM doing the mothering. Regardless of our personal romantic lives, which are separate from our much more important role of raising this child. Of course. Sheesh.

  • Anonymous May 8, 2019, 7:07 am

    Thank you for sharing your process. I am wondering if you could shed some light on the tax implications (benefits?) of divorcing. Is there advantage to being divorced when one spouse is still working (and earning six figures) while the other takes early social security?

  • John Nash June 19, 2019, 5:10 am

    Your divorce only costs less than $300 because your wife agreed to it. Getting married is a horrible idea, if she wanted to take you to the cleaners she could have. You thinking she is the sweetest person who would never do that is not any kind of insurance policy. You got lucky that she isn’t trying to get half of your assets. Having a contract with the government “marriage”, is really unnecessary even for those planning to have kids. I’m glad you made it with barely a scratch; pure luck. Because thinking you really know someone and what they will do means nothing until that is put to the test.

  • Andy July 27, 2019, 11:05 am

    My daughters mother is taking me back to court to increase child support because she knows I’ve managed to acquire some assets. Overall a miserable experience, but being a MMM follower made me smile. Court’s calculations are based upon gross income after taxes. A low expense lifestyle doesn’t entitle the other party to any of the resulting savings. And while it’s not fair that I’m the financially responsible parent (mom chooses not to work), I’m glad I am building the financial means to help my daughter for college/first home/etc. when she’s older.

  • Jose August 5, 2019, 11:48 am

    Late to this post, but really sorry to hear this news. Personally always felt like life transitions are difficult on a relationship. Probably something vital to consider along with the financial ramifications of escaping the 9-5 life. I would imagine the transition from being a regular guy with a blog to the leader of a larger movement would put a strain on anyone’s relationship.

    I am curious as to the financial aspects of the split. I know you have amassed a healthy amount from the success of the blog, was that amount split between the two of you? Since the goal was to donate the excess earnings was that excluded from your divorce settlement?

    Also, both of you are young and attractive so I am sure future relationships will develop. At the same time you live in a relatively small community. Is there any fear that a new partner could cause relocation for one of you?

    Obviously probably prying beyond the parameters you set in the post, but I do find it interesting given that this is the type of “life change” critics of FIRE cite as proof that early retirement is not feasible.

  • anonymous August 15, 2019, 6:23 pm

    Hi mrmoneymustache

    I am currently in a marriage.
    I met my husband 15 years ago and fell in love.
    However my english was very poor, he is asian, I am caucasian.
    I moved here from another country to be with him. I am a PR, not a citizen.
    Which makes my position quit difficult.
    Our marriage is breaking. He is verbal and emotional abusive. Not all the time, but a lot and I feel more and more hate against his attitude and bad moods . I feel very tens around him. I used to love him so much, and it scares me that i have those feelings. I can not talk to him about anything that we/he could improve, he only gets mad.

    I think to know he tries his best, being the “only homemaker”, long story, I stopped working last year.
    I am afraid of a divorce, when we get married, I said I only want to marry once and hope this would be it.

    We have a pre-marriage agreement and I haven’t been working much in my home country. I am afraid of the financial situation. Where to find a job in my age, a home….
    We have two children as well and both are teen girls, I don’t want to drag them through a divorce as I assume it wouldn’t be a pretty one …
    How to get all my belongings into my home country, what with our children overseas?
    But on the other side, it is hard for me to see that we will last another 10 or even 5 years…

  • Bille August 19, 2019, 7:30 pm

    This is a late comment, but I’m sorry to hear about your divorce. I’m really, really sorry that people who don’t know you or your family felt that they had the right to comment on your personal situation. I think this particular post and your other advice has been so beneficial to many (including me). Hang in there and wishing you and your family all the best.

  • jim August 20, 2019, 7:24 am

    My wife and I almost got divorced. It was to the point where we both really hated each other. But we managed to hang on. And I know that we are better for it. There’s so many strings attached when you are married to someone. You can’t just bury those old feelings and memories. I can’t. And then there’s the kids. I saw kid after kid go from aspiring straight A student to barely getting by and not even wanting to get driver’s licenses.

    I don’t think you want to hear it but I’ll say it anyway. I couldn’t have made it without relying on a creator. Telling that creator that I don’t love this person and I really rather hate her, and that I know it’s not his will. And if my attitude is going to change, it’s going to take divine intervention.

    That was 30 years ago. I can’t imagine the hurt and pain I’d experience if we had decided to walk away.

    There’s no judgement on you, just best wishes.

  • Ryan August 20, 2019, 8:50 am

    Been there, done that, sigh. As you say its how you choose to react. Fortunately my ex and I put our daughter first and we had a mediated divorce and shared custody. I live 2 blocks away and get regular time with the girl. it wasn’t easy or fun but we got through it and nearly 7 years later we are doing ok my ex and I are still amicable I am part of the girls life and she is loved by both parents and got to stay in the house she came home from the hospital to. I wish you peace on this journey and keep putting the kid first and it will all work out.

  • Neo August 20, 2019, 12:13 pm

    I was really conflicted when I read this. On one hand I don’t want to be judgemental at all. Things happen. But I think what I found dissapointing is this idea that a. because of all you’ve learned you’ll both live better lives and b. in the comments there seems to be the idea that if a marriage is unhappy its not worth sticking around. Thats sad to me because any way you spin this it sucks. You can’t dress up a shitty situation sometimes – its just shitty. I wish you had been that honest instead of couching it in all the ways this will make you better.

    • Mr. Money Mustache August 21, 2019, 2:05 pm

      Thanks Neo – I think I did cover the shittiness. But pretty much EVERY shitty situation can lead to a better, wiser life in the future years. “If it doesn’t kill you, it makes you stronger.”

      And remember, many MANY marriages currently out there are not meant to be. People are stuck in psychologically or physically abusive relationships and they should absolutely get divorced if they can find the strength and courage to do so. Just because a relationship has the label “marriage” does not mean it’s any better than any other relationship – it’s just a legal label.

      In my case, from this perspective almost two years after the split began, I can say that I was married to a great person and I wish her the absolute best. And I hope we remain increasingly good friends for life. But I *STILL* don’t want to be married again. So in that context, it was a good choice even when there was no abuse and she is a great human being.

      I’m writing this comment only to continue my advocacy against the anti-divorce shame stigma that seems prevalent in some areas of American culture.

  • pcontiman August 20, 2019, 1:37 pm

    Great articulation of a difficult subject. I would especially highlight the section on “if you want to stay married”. Yes, remember at one time this person was your best friend or at least try to make that the case. If you can get to the place where you treat each other that way, it makes things easier. I doubt that the “perfect marriage” exisits but by trying you can at least get into the ball park. Take care and hopefully I’ll get my act together and ready your site more often and find that elusive “financial freedom”.

  • ReaderOnTheCoast August 21, 2019, 5:20 pm

    Newish reader here. My heart goes out to you.

    My husband and I had a crisis in our marriage to the point of breaking. We were (and still are) incredibly thankful for Retrouvaille (www.helpourmarriage.org) a marriage program for struggling couples. It completely helped us to salvage our marriage and we are stronger now than we ever have been and we have seen some amazing miracles thanks to Retrouvaille.

    I also went to a therapist, and we saw a marriage therapist together for a short period of time. Time, working each and every day at our marriage, and making sure we did not have a married singles lifestyle were crucial things that helped us grow together and not separately.

    Much love to you.

  • Lynne August 25, 2019, 1:10 pm

    Well MMM, I come late to this post and only found out from PoF’s brief comment and web link. I have to say, I commend you for the mature way you and your ex divorced. And it is great you are living so close to your kid so you can be very available and involved. My own parents did well with regards to not badmouthing or using us as pawns, but my father basically checked completely out of parenthood the day he left. He was at least an authoritarian figure and gave us the illusion of stability while they were together. He quickly remarried and traded us in for a new family.

    As someone who’s been single for nearly 17 years now, I can say that we go through a huge metamorphosis after divorce; we reflect, reinvent, make peace with our demons and move forward. Glad you didn’t get financially destroyed. My finances took a little bit of a hit during the divorce, but with him gone my expenses were far less other than a new and larger mortgage, and over time I recovered and saved feverishly enough to retire 14 years post-divorce. Life is good.

  • New to FI but old to Divorce October 12, 2019, 7:21 pm

    Hello, I found this blog through the Mad Fientist and have been reading all of the posts from the earliest to the latest. I’m sorry to hear this has happened in one way and sort of happy for you if being on the other side was a better goal.
    I too, was divorced and am now married a second time, but happily on the other side.
    I want to thank you so much for all of the information, spreadsheet, and references you have shared. This post was so kind and thoughtful for readers. I hope the comments back are as kind and thoughtful. I wish you, former Mrs. MM, and your young MM all the best! You are further ahead than most of us in that you could maintain kindness in this situation and end up remaining supportive, while agreeing not to waste tons of money on the fight. I wasn’t as lucky, but recovering financially everyday.
    If you haven’t already read the book “Tiny Beautiful Things,” I fully recommend it as well as the Dear Sugar podcast on NPR. Both feed me in ways I didn’t know I hungered for.
    All the best!

  • JR November 19, 2019, 12:11 pm

    This resonated with me, I only now just found it (and have been a long time Mr Money Mustache fan), but went through my own divorce, and while it was horrible and heartbreaking, the advice I’ve followed to have a solid stash of savings really did soften the blow.

  • Amy C January 14, 2020, 3:56 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve been divorced for 5 years, and making that decision was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I actually remember the feeling of my heart breaking. It’s not just emotional, It’s a physical pain that’s hard to describe, but I know you understand. My kids father is not in the picture, and that has been excruciating for my children, It took me about a year or 2 to completely heal from it.

    On the bright side – 5 years later, I also realize that my decision to file for divorce with 2 young children was by far the best decision I have ever made to date.
    the hardest, but the best.
    I promise you, time will heal. It does get easier. This is just the beginning, my friend.

  • Anonymous January 28, 2020, 8:26 pm

    I have a sister that may be going through a divorce because her husband had an affair. They are discussing custody arrangements already because they are both scared about losing time with their daughter. The husband wants a 50/50 split and to have the daughter basically live in 2 homes. In your post you said you bought a house close to the family house and I’m wondering what you think is a fair/ good idea for custody arrangements. I know my sister is very scared about having their 4 year old daughter living in 2 houses and the effects of that on her. Any advice?

    • Mr. Money Mustache January 30, 2020, 8:01 pm

      Yes! I think if co-parents are going to live in separate houses, they should be within an easy walking distance of each other if at all possible. It has been such a nice, natural transition for our son (much to my surprise) and this way he can keep all his old friends from the neighborhood and buzz back and forth between houses at his own preference.

      Best of luck to your sister and her daughter and the father. If everyone can be civil to each other and you make both houses a fun, comfy place for the daughter to live she has a great chance of prospering in the new arrangement.

  • Anonymous February 16, 2020, 8:16 pm

    Thank you for this post. I am looking for resources on divorce and protecting your assets (if at all possible) for those of us living in community property states. I know so many couples where one spouse is the saver & the other spender. What happens when the spender decides marriage is no longer a priority. How likely can you peacefully split without lawyers & leave with your investments not cut in half? No children involved. Curious what books might be helpful? I am just in the process of recognizing what is likely coming.

    Feeling financially vulnerable…

  • Paul February 25, 2020, 10:51 am

    One thing to bear in mind. Relationship patterns can also be like money patterns.
    Just as changing to a new city, a new job, a new salary level, a new house won’t change your relationship to money, changing to a new partner won’t essentially change the relationship issues you face.
    So, many just as a perspective, consider: it’s not really about whether you stay or go in an individual relationship, it’s about how good you become at “relationshipping” and in what you seek out in a relationship.
    Having this perspective can change the way you view your current relationship, because you realize that leaving the relationship won’t necessarily solve the challenges, it will just transfer them onto a new person or situation. That removes the pressure/focus on divorce or separation and helps you to concentrate on just being better yourself.

    Wishing luck to everyone out there going through these challenges!

    • Mr. Money Mustache February 25, 2020, 12:24 pm

      Yes! This is a brilliant perspective Paul and thanks for putting it so clearly.

      Of course, it is still true that some pairs of people are more compatible with each other than others, and there is still the issue of abusive relationships or addictions, some of them which are completely outside of your control as the partner on the other side of it.

      But for a certain cluster of relationships in the middle, where you have been compatible for a long time in the past but something is just not clicking these days, I think working on yourself (and the relationship together) is a really good idea.

      If former Mrs. MM I could go back to perhaps age 30 with this perspective, it is possible that the ensuing dozen years would go differently. But thankfully, we are still alive NOW and getting to apply this learning for the second half of our lives. Not with each other, of course, but that doesn’t mean that happy and long-lasting relationships can’t happen for us both.

  • Aby March 4, 2020, 4:17 pm

    I come from a super conservative background where divorce is the worst thing that can happen to you. However I was a very independent woman, had my own job, had migrated to aus from a 3rd world country and after dealing with bringing a person over to aus and paying for everything as he wouldn’t work for a year as well as multiple inter family dramas I filed for divorce. I learnt a few things:
    1. Never let family into your business. Even your own mum and dad. With their best intentions they are still not you and will muddle up things by being more emotional for you. It’s hard enough settling in with one person without dealing with a whole brood.
    2. We told no one. Not. One. Soul. I mean my side of the family. It was easy to do as I dont live in the country. As far as social experiments go it was a huge eye opener, I didnt think it would be that easy. And easy on me too as I and my family managed to avoid painful and probing questions and feel like we were being talked about. It let us heal a 100 times faster and better as there was no social stigma to deal with.
    8 years later, we have still not come out and said anything. I’m pretty sure the extended family and relatives now know but don’t dare ask us. A couple of pretend friends did try to generate some gossip and ask me and I gave a very flip, “wow, that happened long ago, I thought you all knew?” And because it was so long ago, after getting a few bored responses I’m sure they felt silly trying to stir a dead topic and shut up pretty quickly.
    Now heres another thing: A year ago I also got married to another guy, I chose to keep it to me and my immediate family. I’ve realized the power of keeping relationships to myself and theres absolutely nothing like it.
    A very very powerful Learning: if I want to keep it between two people, I absolutely can. It’s me that hands out the knowledge and let’s people into my business or me who chooses to focus on what someone is saying or thinking rather than something better. And I took back that power by shutting anyone other than genuine friends out.
    2. The divorce was the best thing to financially happen to me. I realized I need to rely on me, and I had the means to do it but was waiting for a “partner” to do it with. 3 years later, I have 3 house and multiple share investments as the need to be in control of my future took over.
    I just wanted to share my own experience on this from a really strict culture where divorce is borderline taboo.

  • anonymous July 28, 2020, 12:31 pm

    Hi! Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly about marriage and divorce. There is a lot to be learned from others. I am about a year out from my own divorce and what you wrote rang true. We didn’t have kids so we were able to just go our separate ways (though we did get the help of one lawyer) fairly cheaply and easily. Keeping a family intact while changing a relationship can’t be easy so I applaud you for making it work. All my best!

  • Rick Mayhew December 20, 2020, 8:26 am

    I’m a little late to the game, but this is probably the best, most succinct summary of what you go through that I’ve read. Even if it’s a perfect divorce, it’s painful. My best advice came from a friend of mine who is a funeral director. He bottom-lined it for me very quickly when he said, “Well, you’ll get over it or die with it.” While it sounds kind of trite or even mean, it’s actually the way it works. So, it’s better to “move on” as quickly as reasonably possible.

  • Bart M December 22, 2020, 4:15 pm

    I’m not necessarily mad or angry at my children’s mother. She decided she wanted a different lifestyle which did not include me. Immediately after divorce, I decided I would move on and find happiness. Much to my surprise, I was happy that I no longer had her in my life. I reflected on it and determined her toxicity was actually genuine. My surprise was it had been noticeable to family and friends. I had been covering for her.
    My suggestion to anyone is to take those parts of your life which matter and hang on to them. As for the rest of it, decide if you need it or not. Find new friends, new relationships, explore and have a great life. Plan your life; live your life.

  • ReadytoRetire August 10, 2021, 1:51 pm

    It sounds like you handled your divorce as well as possible.

    To take this topic to a very practical goal: should any married person automatically DOUBLE his or her asset goal before retiring, so that if the unthinkable/common happens and they divorce, he or she is still safe? The retirement asset simulations should add at least 55% chance of your assets getting cut in half once in your lifetime.

    It does increase the target for assets. I have no particular reason to expect divorce in my marriage (and each of us is so stubborn that we would probably never admit failure!), but I for one am glad that our shared assets are now somewhere more than double what I consider my minimum goal.

    • Mr. Money Mustache August 11, 2021, 10:20 am

      Contrary to popular opinion, I think that financially it doesn’t really make much difference whether you stay married or not. Because if you are living alone, most of your living expenses will be cut in half so you only need half the savings!

      It’s true that I chose to expand my own lifestyle temporarily by owning a house entirely to myself right now, which does cost a bit more. But it has a lower-level apartment that I could rent out, and if I did that it would cover the cost of the entire house and I could live for FREE, which is even lower than before. So the financial implications of divorce are really a case-by-case basis.

      On top of that, I do plan to settle down and move in with a partner eventually, which brings us back to the shared household and split expenses of before.

  • Jimbo November 23, 2021, 3:18 pm

    I would add this to the advice suggestion, every time you meet someone that has been married 25 or more years ask them for advice on how to have a long marriage or just ask them how they dealt with something you are struggling with right now. Don’t be surprised if they laugh at your current struggle, they are just remembering when they had the same struggle and how insignificant it seems now.

  • Andrea February 15, 2022, 7:40 pm

    Hi. just saw this entry in 2022 and catching up to your other pandemic posts. I also divorced recently and find your take very refreshing — it’s a change in who we love and to choose to make my new life about growth and not conflict. My divorce was easy finance-wise since we both had no debt, no kids and no joint assets so our divorce settlement was “what’s his is his and what’s mine is mine.”

    My question for you is, and I really hope you respond, is how do you plan on approaching marriage again if that day comes? We both had spouses that made the divorce easier finance-wise, but since there are no guarantees with the next one or anything in life, do you plan on getting a prenup (especially since you have a child)? That is my biggest concern in finding love again because although my divorce was easy, I lost my innocence during my divorce when I realized I could have lost half of everything had I married the wrong person. I hope to hear your take on finance in re-marriage.

    • Mr. Money Mustache February 17, 2022, 11:20 am

      Hi Andrea, this is a really interesting question that I have thought about quite a bit in the years since this post.

      What I found through the divorce experience is that formal marriage is actually a really silly arrangement – it is taking a beautiful thing (a relationship between two people), and then inviting the Government with all of their rules and paperwork and traditions into the arrangement. I was shocked at how intrusive and prescriptive the paperwork was, even in the case of a mutually desired and agreed-upon separation. We had to go back to the courthouse about three times with our paperwork before we got everything right!

      So, the short version of this answer: I don’t see a need to ever get re-married in the legal sense. Although I have no problem with an equal level of love and commitment – we just wouldn’t invite Uncle Sam to the party. For me, this is also a nice test of a compatible partner. I’d hope to pair up permanently with someone who sees the world in similar terms, without placing too much emotional importance on a title that somebody else invented.

  • Steve November 16, 2022, 5:27 pm

    Have you heard about the frugal Scotsman… He was sleeping with his mother-in-law… “To save wear and tear on the wife…”

  • Ted January 3, 2023, 4:43 pm

    I came here to MMM site today to look for some advice about what to do with my son’s savings account, so typed in ‘kids’ for the search and found this blog. I needed to read this more than anyone knows. My 22 year marriage has been heading for a divorce over the past 8 plus years. I’ve recently sought help (Therapy) to help me through it, and make this divorce as amicable as possible. I know it won’t be easy, but…I can’t tell you how much I appreciate reading that there are couples that can divorce with little drama as possible. I’m rambling, but I just wanted to (1) say thank you for posting this. I really needed to read this today, and (2) I didn’t get through all the comments yet, but if anyone knows of a website with similar tips and ‘how to’ divorce, I’d appreciate it. I feel weird typing it into Google, and who knows what I’ll get. I just want to read and educate myself with something similar to this blog. Thanks MMM, appreciate your transparency and level headed approach to this tough topic.


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